| Email Messages On-Line Dating Site |
| Date & Time: |
Individual |
Message |
| 10/18/2010 7:42:35 PM |
phoenixguy35 |
hi sexy |
| 10/18/2010 8:40:49 PM |
iloveroses |
Hi |
| 10/18/2010 8:42:51 PM |
phoenixguy35 |
Your cute my names mark |
| 10/18/2010 9:11:43 PM |
iloveroses |
Thanks my name is rita |
| 10/18/2010 9:40:07 PM |
phoenixguy35 |
We should hangout sometime |
| 10/18/2010 10:43:49 PM |
iloveroses |
Sure. Call me. Rita 480-665-8999 |
| Cell Phone Text Messages |
| Date & Time: |
Individual |
Message |
10/21/2010
9:59 AM |
phoenixguy35 |
Sends a funny picture that says: Wake up and listen! Here’s ur Mexican Wake Up Call! Now have a good day! Good morning! |
10/21/2010
10:00 AM |
iloveroses |
Thank you for the kind words, who is this please? |
10/21/2010
10:01 AM |
phoenixguy35 |
Mark from the dating site. We should hang out. What are you doing right now? |
10/21/2010
10:02 AM |
iloveroses |
Working. And U? |
10/21/2010
10:03 AM |
phoenixguy35 |
Working also. What do you do? |
10/21/2010
10:04 AM |
iloveroses |
I work for attorneys. And U? |
10/21/2010
10:05 AM |
phoenixguy35 |
I work in sales. So you wanna get together? |
10/21/2010
10:06 AM |
iloveroses |
Sure, let’s get together for a cup of coffee or a happy hour. |
10/21/2010
10:07 AM |
phoenixguy35 |
Ya its always happy hour at my place |
10/21/2010
10:09 AM |
iloveroses |
Well, since I don’t know you, I think having a cup of coffee or a happy hour drink in a public place is best |
10/21/2010
10:11 AM |
phoenixguy35 |
Sends a photo [POISONIVY.JPG] of his nude lower body with stimulated genitals |
10/21/2010
10:12 AM |
iloveroses |
You just sent me unwanted pornography. What were you thinking? I just got thru telling you I worked for attorneys. I work for a criminal attorney. |
10/21/2010
10:13 AM |
phoenixguy35 |
Ok I’m sorry. |
10/21/2010
10:14 AM |
iloveroses |
Sorry. What are you 12? Lose my phone number and don’t ever contact me again! |
Call me hopelessly old fashioned, but before I want to see you naked, or any part of you naked, I’d FIRST like to meet you face-to-face, have a cup of coffee, exchange some dialog, maybe even find out what you do and ask your last name – or better yet, see if there is a chemical, emotional or intellectual spark between us!
So, is it really the technology that has gone crazy, or have we as a society, a community and a people slowly devolved to unabashed digital debauchery? What happened to the kinder more genteel time of manners and culture? Has sensibility become passé?
It may have sounded romantic to go into cyberspace looking for “the one” true love of your life. Perhaps too many long hours working prevents you from a meaningful social life and precludes the chance occurrence of bumping into someone special. Or, plain and simple desperation to meet and/or date someone may have driven you to cyberspace places, and instead you got that pornographic photo texted to your phone.
Funny … you so innocently posted personal information about yourself in hopes of finding a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife, or just someone to hang out with for fun bowling, at dinner, playing sports, or perhaps to make a new friend.
But, be assured that is NOT why many people join a dating site, social media site, or post a profile on-line. They are predators looking for prey. You can’t imagine how many times the scenario between phoenixGuy35 and IloveRoses above, or worse, is played-out through cyberspace! The dangers are real. Expectations must be balanced with common sense and logic.
For adults, relationship foreplay, used to be relatively simple – flirtatious comments, cat-and-mouse games, hide-and-seek, catch-me-if-you-can, discreet physical touches and chance meetings. With the permanent establishment of the telephone into our lifestyle came phone sex, with cybersex right on its heels and finally as a society we have notoriously arrived at widespread sexting.
Sexting, initially more highly utilized by teens, is the transmission of sexually explicit or sexually suggestive messages, photographs or videos through a smart cell phone, email, IM, or social networking site. The sexting epidemic ushered in by the teens has spilled over into the general population and is now widely used by people of all ages.
Unwanted Sexting by Another Adult | What to do
While sexting can be used as a form of flirtation and foreplay among CONSENTING adults, and is often used in committed relationships, what happens if you do not consent to being the recipient to these types of messages? What is your recourse?
The answer is simple. As an adult, use your rational intelligence, logic and common sense.
- Always save the message[s] as evidence.
- Contact the transmitter and explain this type of conduct is unwarranted and any further similar texts/sexts could likely result in criminal charges against him/her.
People who are the recipients of repeated, unwanted pornography and sext messages can pursue legal recourse against the offender by obtaining an order of protection, or filing charges for harassment and/or stalking.
Should unsolicited and unwanted messages continue, contact your local law enforcement for a full investigation. Always consult with a qualified, experienced criminal defense attorney if you are seeking advice or assistance for filing an order of protection, for obtaining a harassment injunction or for any related questions.
How Can Sexting Affect My Life or Career?
Even if you are a consenting adult involved in intimate sexting with another, you may want to consider possible life and career implications if something goes wrong with that relationship. There are far too many cyber outlets for Prince Charming or Princess Leia to express their anger and disfavor for you; these are places where anyone can find you including a future or current employer!
Googled Before Interviewed or Hired
Worse Yet — Googled, Then Fired
Increasingly employers are Googling you before they hire you, often even before interviewing you. They may not employ you if they perceive that you are negatively plastered all over the web. Be mindful that employers and future partners are looking for integrity, privacy and someone with a good reputation.
Professor S. Craig Watkins at the University of Texas at Austin in an interview with GoCollege Blog stated he saw no problem with universities using social networks as a screening device for applicants. Further, Watkins said to graduates,
“Graduating students, one of the things that they indicated is that when they went out for interviews for jobs, one of the first thing they were asked is, ‘Are you on MySpace?’ or, ‘Are you on Facebook?’ Their potential employers wanted to get access to their profiles.”
Potential employers want to know who you are and want to know they’ve made the right choice in hiring you, or in considering hiring you.
You are a your own kind of personal logo or brand and the posting of personal content in public places can affect the way people perceive you – either positively or negatively. Be sure to take care what other may post about you online.
Be aware, your current employer can also Google you at any time. Information they discover about you may cause them to terminate their relationship with you.
In Summary
- Be careful of what you post,
- Where you post,
- Who you agree to meet,
- Where you meet, and
- What you text/sext and send to another
And … if you happen to be married and are caught sexting someone, not your partner … say no more!
Contributed By: Rhonda Robbins
For a free consultation with any of our attorneys call 602-971-1775 or visit us at: www.criminallawaz.com. For personal injury or accident, please visit www.alexandgaxiola.com
see related posts:
Part I – Unwanted Sexting from a Minor | How to Stay Out of Jail
Part II – Sexting with a Minor | How to Go to Jail
Part III – Minor Flirtation with Danger | Sexting Teenagers | How to Go to Jail
Part IV – When Did Qwerty Get Dirty | Adult-to-Adult Sexting | How to Go to Jail